so many hits

OMG!! Not to brag or anything, but I’ve gotten like, 80 hits since I posted my counter LAST NIGHT!! This is amazing. I am so extremely, incredibly popular.

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office films and pseudonyms

I just rented Bartleby for the first time last night. Dear God, that movie is amazing. Here is my Top 5 Office Movie List:
1. Secretary
2. Bartleby
3. Clockwatchers
4. 9 to 5
5. Joe Versus the Volcano
One of the Andrews has requested that I stop blogging about him for chrissake! Or at least give him a pseudonym. (On the other hand reading about himself inspired him to call and ask me for a breakfast date, so he can’t be that offended!) At first I agreed, but now I’m having second thoughts. I want to respect dudes privacy, but I also strive for transparency in my writing. When I started this blog I only had like, three readers, and I designed my entries as if I were writing letters to them. Also I was with Jake then, and was so secure in my relationship that I refered to him by his full name, or as Lover Longstreth. When we broke up I considered going back and changing his name, but ultimately decided that tampering with past entries is unethical. And besides, my readership was still small enough that everyone visiting my site knew Jake anyway. But now Ultimate Blogger has raised my profile on the Internet, and being single has meant writing about boys in ways that may be embarassing for them. Jake gritted his teeth and let me blog about our dates and arguments. Maybe I shouldn’t expect these new lads to be as permissive. So what should I do, dear readers? Here are my options, as I see them:
a) Continue on with no changes. Love me, love my blog.
b) Quit writing about my love life (ha!).
c) Give pseudonyms to those who request them.
d) Give pseudonyms to all of my boys, Carrie Bradshaw style.
If c) or d), how should I assign pseudonyms? I’ve thought about using bird names. Or the names of Salinger characters. Or using names that have little clues, like The Southern Gentleman, or The French Kisser. (Sort of cheesy, I know.)
Give me your input and I will make my decision based on your comments. In the meantime send me warm thoughts for my breakfast date tomorrow morning. Don’t worry, I’ll tell you all about it! (*wink*)

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tech questions..

Does anyone know how I can put a counter on my blog so I can see how many people are visiting me? Also, does anyone know a good host for my photos? Hello won’t load onto my computer for some reason, and flickr only holds eight photos at a time… Hmm. Wouldn’t it be great if I had an UrbanHonking blog?

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rose festival

Driving home from Katie’s on Wednesday night I found myself behind an ambulance. The light was on and I could see right inside. There was a large Hispanic man, with a large white moustache talking lazily with the EMT. The man was sitting upright, and he was shirtless. It was so intimate that I was almost uncomfortable. We travelled together for a few blocks, stopped at a red light, and then they turned toward the hospital and I turned toward home.
I’ve been reading Sonny’s blog lately. It’s so weird to think of him in some office in Afghanistan just blogging and surfing the web. Thinking of his day to day life over there a) make the war seem very real, and b) makes me feel very protective over this man I’ve never met. I try not to see this war in black and white. There is a tendency on both sides to co-opt the experiences of soldiers and civilians to prove a point. “Men and women are over there dying for oil and power!” “Our boys are fighting for the noblest of causes: Freedom!” It’s easy and comfortable to see casualties as tokens and battles as discussions. But battles are battles! And casualties are people! I am worried about Sonny, and everyone he know over there, and everyone they know. Knowing his face, reading his history suddenly gives faces and histories to all of the forms in fatigues I normally picture when I think of war. Sonny! Be careful! World leaders! Send Sonny home!
Last night I went to the Rose Festival with Amy and Bob. First we watched fireworks from the East Side Esplanade, then we walked across the Hawthorne Bridge to the carnival on the other side. We rode the ferris wheel. It goes really fast! Bob kept standing up and yelling, “I’m on top of the world!” which is so played out that it is funny again. We wanted to go on more rides, but they were closing down so we played games instead. There’s a horse racing game that I’m really good at. When Bob and I went to Vegas last year I won three or four times in a row at that game. We played last night and Bob won, which was a huge blow to my ego. But he confessed to cheating, so I am still the champ. His prize was a plush snake whice he gave to a fairly unappreciative kid. Then we passed a booth that was decked out in neon signs- flamingos, cacti, dolphins- you name it. The deal was you pay $2 for one dart, and you have to hit one of the 50 or so red stars posted on a board. People were throwing away money on this game, buying handfuls of darts and coming up empty. Bob got excited. He was certain he could hit a star. Amy and I had faith in him. We each donated a dollar. He eyeballed the board. He inspected his dart. Then in one swift motion he thrust the dart into space. AND HE HIT A STAR!! RIGHT IN THE CENTER! BULLSEYE!! The carnie was amazed. She let us chose our neon. We instantly agreed on the pink naked lady. We went to Shanghai Tunnel to celebrate, and plugged the sign in right by our table to admire it and congratulate ourselves (well, Bob really). To my delight Bob and Amy decided to let me keep the pink lady, so she is now glowing away in my living room, beckoning lovers and laughs.
I just opened a flickr account, so uploading photos will soon be very easy. I’ll post some good Rose Fest pics later. I heart carnivals!

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there is nothing lonlier..

There is nothing lonlier than being sober when your date is drunk.

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I wish I was a cosmonaut

I realize that it’s been a long time since I blogged about boys.
Here is a summary:
~I ran into the first Andrew on the street this weekend. We kissed for about four minutes. We did not discuss future dates or phone calls.
~There is a lover on my horizon who deeply values his privacy. I have always known this about him. This is why you haven’t heard much about him on Perfect Heart. But if I could I would write all the time about how excited and nervous I am to reunite with him this summer.
~A dear male friend confessed to me recently that he’ll never let himself get too close to me because of latent feelings he has for me. Whenever he has a girlfriend he goes MIA from my life entirely. This makes me so sad. Don’t we all have feelings for each other, on some level? If there is no risk of acting on them, what’s the harm in being friends? Doesn’t having extra-fondness for a friend make the friendship extra-special? I am being overly simplistic here, and possibly even dismissive. I just want to hang out with my friend unhindered.
~My former lover finally emailed me last week after two months of silence. It was rather small talky, but I can’t fault him for that. It took me a long time to figure out how to respond. I don’t know what I want from him, or what I am allowed to expect. I have so much anger, but I know down deep there is tenderness. Should I be his friend? Even if it reopens the wounds that have only just scabbed over? Even if he doesn’t deserve it? How can I let go of my resentment? What do we owe each other now? I responded last night, and I think my email was a sour mix of nonchalance, posturing, and needles. I don’t regret it yet. I probably will later.
~The second Andrew blew me off at a show last weekend, but it didn’t bother me much. A little bird told me he’s something of a “creepy skeez.”
So there it is. I am pretty deep in it all right now. I nurse this dream of partnership and love, but it’s like every choice I make leads me further from this ideal. I feel adrift.

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nature of the universe

What follows is a transcription of a conversation I had with Jordan, my 7 year old ward, over Frostys at Wendy’s:
Jordan: Did you know that there are over a hundred million stars in our galaxy?
Willow: Huh. Where did you come up with that figure?
Jordan: I mean in our whole universe.
Willow: There are a lot more stars than that in the universe.
Jordan: How many? Infinity?
Willow: Well, Jordan, that’s a great question. There is a big debate among scientists about whether the universe infinite or finite.
Jordan: What’s finite?
Willow: It means limited. If the universe were finite then there would be an end of the universe, out there somewhere. And concievibly we could one day count all of the stars in the universe. If the universe is infinite then it goes on forever and we’ll never know how many stars. Does that make sense?
Jordan: (nods. Is quiet for a moment.) Do you know that if you took a bite out of the earth you would burn your teeth off?
Willow: Because of the magma in the earth’s core?
Jordan: Yup!
Willow: You’d probably burn your whole face off.
Jordan: I think I would just take a bite of the first layer. It would be like, “Krrunch!” No magma! Just dirt! Ha!

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summer favorites

pink lemonade
perpetual twilight
wildflowers in the medians
grilled Smart Dogs
fireworks
bare feet
windows wide open
bike races
reading outside
sunburns
Anacortes Shipwreck Days
Beer-Thirty (as in, “what time is it?”)
sleeping out
car trips
camp fires
bands on tour
matinee movies on really hot days
lake swimming
yard sales
softball

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condolence voice messages

From Amy:
I’m terribly sorry you were voted off the cyber island. You played real well. I think you know that. And we’re all real, real proud of you, and we’re all looking forward to more blogs, down the line, in your future. Okay, give me a call. Bye
From (drunk) Tom:
Hey Willow, it’s your friend Tom. I’m sorry you lost your competition. I voted for you. You may not have known, but I had a different email account. But anyway, I’m sorry. Happy Memorial Day, and I wish that you would have won, because I voted for you, more than once. In any case, maybe I’ll talk to you again. That’s all that I have to say. Good times! Okay, bye.
From My Dad:
Willow, it’s your dad. Boy I’m pretty upset. I just sent some pretty nasty emails to the final four on that stupid thing- I guess I threatened their families and stuff, but hey! You know! Ha ha. Well, Willow, I’m sorry you lost out there. I loved your celebrity gossip entry, way better than those artsy pretentious ones. Anyway, I hope you are out drowning your sorrows, and I look forward to all the insider information. Okay, big hug, love you! Bye!

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is posting poems blogger suicide?

For the second Andrew:
Sometimes dancing is just that
Sometimes kissing is just as well
A clink of cans
A drive ‘cross town
A poem on a scrap
You left me with that

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