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Jimmies? // (Spliced from the Lady Thread)

LelandLeland
edited December 2011
Is anybody OK with jimmies? I got some once for a date with somebody that I ended up marrying. Maybe we used one that first time? And before that a partner and I used them once, maybe twice, but we went on to something else ASAP because neither of us could stand it.

I've tended to think of it as an important courtesy to be prepared to offer a condom, part of being a gentleman, but not something either party would tolerate if other steps were taken.

Am I wrong about this? Maybe there's some new kind of fullerene latex or something that people have had fun with? My memory is that it was like wearing an oven mitt, or maybe even less sexy than that.

But does it work for the ladies*? Does it even make a difference? I mean as a matter of sensation, independent of the pragmatic stuff about disease and pregnancy barriers.

Maybe jimmy-hate is strictly a dude/wearer problem that a considerate and thoughtful fellow should prepare to endure more or less stoically in the early encounters of an affair. Or maybe there's a new "Trojan HD/Director's Cut" that gets good reviews from everyone it touches?

Curious.


* or gents or others, whomever happens to ride that side of the seesaw.

Comments

  • Clever_girlClever_girl
    edited December 2011
    I never have had problems with Jimmies. Growing up in the late eighties and nineties, Safe Sex was Very Important. Wearing a condom was hammered into my head, so it just seemed like the thing to do. And since I always wore one, it was no big deal.

    When I first had sex without a condom, I was amazed, though. What a difference!

    Now my wife and I use charting for B.C. and just use jimmies when she's fertile. Also, we use polyisoprene (non-latex) condoms (I think Avanti Bare is the brand we go with), which are just like regular condoms but without that funky latex smell. And it's been awhile since I've used regular condoms, but they might even feel better than latex, IDK.

    Condoms are the best for B.C.! Way better than anything else. The pill is gnarly on a lady's hormones, and all other great options require some sort of medical assistance. And Condoms are the only B.C. that prevent disease!
  • LelandLeland
    #realtalk

    Appreciated!
  • NickNick
    does anyone else call sprinkles on pastries "jimmies"?

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    these things?

    anyway, that's what I thought this thread would be about.
  • LelandLeland
    edited December 2011
    Hate trying to get these things out of the bed.

    Would be funny if you read the thread a couple of times thinking it was about pastry jimmies.

    Like, wow, what's the big deal with jimmies on the maple bars?
  • MirandaJulyMirandaJuly
    I've heard some ladies who say they also prefer the jimmyless experience (in terms of feel).
  • YoursTrulyYoursTruly
    Oh there is no comparison between jimmy/non-jimmy sex. Feels much better in every way. (I am a lady)

    Another reason I hate jimmies is just the interrupting of the flow/vibe. There's always that moment where you have to be like "PUT A JIMMY ON IT" and then everybody stops and maybe you have to fumble around to turn on a light, and then the tearing of the wrapper and the awkward applying of the jimmy and then it's like "GREAT BACK TO IT." It would be nice to just be like people of 100 years ago who did not think of such things (and died of syphilis in droves, ha ha)

    I agree though with Mr. Cosmos. Always have used jimmies because of becoming sexually active in the 90's. I have easily had more jimmy sex than non-jimmy sex, even though I was on the pill for like 15 years (UGH!)
  • UncleBoatShoes2011UncleBoatShoes2011
    K_O_A_C is absolutely right.
    Jimmies are not a big deal.
    Being mellow about jimmies is literally the least we can do as men.
  • LelandLeland
    edited December 2011
    I have learned things here.
    Thank you.

    There is so much I do not know.
  • flossy_log_ladyflossy_log_lady
    "Being mellow about jimmies is literally the least we can do as men."

    Here here!
  • ed_chigliaked_chigliak
    I heartily concur.

    I never had sex without a jimmie until well into my 30s. I never had a dude make a big deal about wearing one, and always felt that any dude who would try and heavily pressure me to avoid wearing one didn't care about my health or actual possible repercussions of sex (ie babies/abortions).

    Yes, it feels better without, except all that anxiety about pregnancy & stds makes it equal in the end, pleasure/comfort wise.
  • ed_chigliaked_chigliak
    also I feel it's the mark of a gentleman to have a preferred brand, which makes it as pleasurable as possible for him to do this annoying duty.
  • MirandaJulyMirandaJuly
    I'm not going to fall into the trap of making a Magnum condom joke that you just laid out.
  • LelandLeland
    edited December 2011
    It's interesting how my (lack of) experience with the jimmies is at variance to y'all. Partly it might be 'cause I'm older and so fell into a different era. I had a few years of activity before the first AIDS reports about 1983 and I was also a monogamist. Everybody I tumbled with ended up being a steady for a year or more. (OK. Slight exaggeration. SLIGHT!) My early partners had diaphragms and we dealt with getting them set up together. No biggie.

    Lost in the jimmie dept.
  • YoursTrulyYoursTruly
    really interesting! Jimmies were such a major, some might say foundational, part of my and most of my friends' sexual awakening. We had jimmies pushed on us from all sides, constantly, from parents to teachers to the parents of boyfriends to classmates to the RAs in my dorm. "KIDS, PLEASE USE A JIMMY" was probably the most common thing I was told as a child, after "why are you spending so much time in the bathroom" maybe

    It's so weird to think about life before jimmy
  • lolololo
    Man, does anyone else want a maple bar right now?
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