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Cabbie Foul Play
Last night, I took a cab home from a movie, and after I got home, the cabbie sent me a text message.
"This is *******'s phone. You can text me if you want :)"
EEEeuck! Too creepy. It was the first thing I thought about this morning. I called the cab company and told the driver supervisor. The supervisor said they had a zero tolerance policy in this regard and that the driver would be let go. When I told him I was concerned about any retaliation that might come of the report, he said he would wait a few days and then let him go without cause.
Obviously I don't feel good about someone losing their job. But I know that taking on guilt is not the right thing to do. I never have a driver drop me off at my door, so although I did verbally tell the driver my address, I hope he forgets it.
This thread is for being creeped out by creeps and skeevs.
#venting
"This is *******'s phone. You can text me if you want :)"
EEEeuck! Too creepy. It was the first thing I thought about this morning. I called the cab company and told the driver supervisor. The supervisor said they had a zero tolerance policy in this regard and that the driver would be let go. When I told him I was concerned about any retaliation that might come of the report, he said he would wait a few days and then let him go without cause.
Obviously I don't feel good about someone losing their job. But I know that taking on guilt is not the right thing to do. I never have a driver drop me off at my door, so although I did verbally tell the driver my address, I hope he forgets it.
This thread is for being creeped out by creeps and skeevs.
#venting
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Oh my god, that is so bad. So so so bad of him. Abuse of his position! Deeply uncool, and carries an unsubtle threat to your privacy, if nothing else.
I also have a zero tolerance policy for things like this. Maybe he's a really nice guy and didn't mean anything by it, but when you have a job where you are explicitly told NOT to contact customers you just should probably not contact your customers.
What a crappy thing for everyone involved.
I was just talking to you RCH about how creepers never understand how what they are doing is subtly yet crucially different from what a non-creeper is allowed to do.
What was the guy's vibe? How old? Did he hit on you in the van?
COME ON GUY.
creep city
Also lets give a hurrah for our time period--even though our time period sucks, it's pretty legit that we've come to the point where a fucking cab company has a zero tolerance policy for this kind of thing. Imagine in the 60s. "What's the problem sister, you got a great pair of gams! What, are you a lesbian or something?" It's cool that now it is a thing that is taken seriously, at least some of the time--women's comfort in the patriarchy
Best case scenario, the driver is just young and insensitive. He was little creepy but I took him to be bored and extroverted. He asked me a lot of questions, including "How tall are you?" Now that I know what his M.O. is, I regret answering at all (for the record I said "Average Height... Why do you ask?"). If I had said "none of your business," think of how the rest of the ride would have gone for me.
Thank you for calling out the abuse of position, Owler! When someone knows a lot about you, it is inherent in a relationship of trust that they respect that completely. Plus this guy is driving around... you're literally trusting your life with a driver.
He knows my name, he has my phone number and evidently isn't afraid to use it, he knows where I live, now he will probably know I got him fired. I think I'm gonna be paranoid for a while.....
RCH also got creeped on at a bar awhile ago by a classic creeper who came on all hippie-smiley can-I-just-hang-out-with-you-bros and then as soon as she made a pretty cute/friendly joke at his expense (he was very drunk and his fly was down) he turned ON A DIME and became so nasty and ugly and talking about gross things and accusing her of wanting his dick.
Creeper: "If a girl is staring right at your crotch..."
Gary: "...it probably means your fly is down"
I'LL KILL A MAN
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driver said he texted me to promote his service...
If you have a smartphone, you can get a Google Voice telephone number and use it for incoming and outgoing voice and text. Also works on a computer in the browser with the mic, speakers, earbud+mic. Free in country.
So you could have a Google Voice number for interactions you don't want with your main number. Layered/by group/social graph privacy is at a very primitive stage.
As for the original incident, over the line. Hey write a consumer review of the business on your choice of outlets. Also writing an eloquent postal mail letter to the CEO is a standout method. Generally gets attention.
Daylight. Busy street.
This stuff happens.
BTW, for years she has used the GoogleVoice exactly as DrWH advises.
Yes, police report filed.
But it turns out, it's hard to actually cross that line and punch somebody in the throat, no matter how many times you practice doing it and are told to do it, in women's self defense class.
emo
One time I was waiting at an isolated bus stop in the day time, when a man skulked across the street in my line of sight (-for- my line of sight). He leaned against a wall and began to remove his... trousers. What happenend next is I rose from the bench and began striding purposefully toward him, at which point he ran away. What the hell did I think I was going to do if he didn't leave?
I'm gonna just say that you did the right thing by not throat-punching.
My self defense teacher had this great story about a friend of hers who was on a crowded bus and the dude next to her started surreptitiously (but "for her") jerking off and she stood up and yelled "This man is masturbating AND I DON'T LIKE IT," and the bus screeched to a halt and the driver called the cops and then everyone just sat there staring judgmentally at the dude until the cops came.
I love the "and I don't like it" part.