Comments on: Medium-Sized Thoughts

By: Denise in WI

Denise in WI — Fri, 12 Oct 2012 11:02:55 +0000

Try a Macoun apple. It is the epitome of all apples! You won’t regret it.

By: kerry

kerry — Thu, 11 Oct 2012 15:59:47 +0000

I feel you about seeing your mom change as she deal with this stuff, it is so hard to watch/deal with as a daughter because you feel like you need to ‘fix’ it. I’ve had similar shit go down in the past year as all my grandparents (all four!) completed their Dying Process with varying levels of trauma involved for all. On top of that it’s been a hell year with my younger brother, from homelessness to mental illness and addiction to back home to back in a shelter due to said addiction, and my parents’ reactions and processing of that whole mess. My mom took the ‘smoke and drugs’ advice your mom gave, and is working herself to an early grave as we speak. I’m alternately horrified and grateful she’s trying to spare me what she went through with my grandparents–I guess? or maybe she is just trying to get the pain of living over with. My personal reaction is to violently wish I was a hermit living in a cave in a mountainside somewhere, with no family trauma to deal with, just gnawing a bone and weighing 50 pounds and doing yoga all day or whatever, untethered from the agony of living. HEAVY!

By: B C

B C — Wed, 10 Oct 2012 18:36:50 +0000

The dying stuff is really intense. My great-grandmother just died at 105. She was mostly deaf and fairly blind due to age, but nothing else was wrong with her. She hadn’t even had a cold in years! At the end, she was living in assisted living, phoned all of her children and said, “I’m a bit lonely these days, I’ve had a good long run, so I think I’m ready to go. Absolutely no one intervene, and no hospitals.” She stopped eating, a nurse would come in, give her a little water, and make sure she was as comfortable as she could be. And then she died! All of her children and grandchildren were contented and at peace. I know it seems weird, but it sounded like kind of a great way to go. Making peace! Accepting the passage of time and fate and what have you, and being ok with it.

By: cdog

cdog — Wed, 10 Oct 2012 16:26:17 +0000

Will you ever release the full film sound track? It would definitely be one for the ages.

By: dv

dv — Wed, 10 Oct 2012 00:02:16 +0000

Apple tasting at the Portland Nursery this weekend!

By: Eileen

Eileen — Tue, 09 Oct 2012 20:28:29 +0000

– That horrible Batman 1 song! Who was it? “Vicky Vale Vicky Vale.” Yeah, I don’t know.
– Wait, are you reading Religion & the Decline of Magic? Keith Thomas? I did that in grad seminar!! Conversations should happen!
– The parent & grandparent stuff is definitely super dark & difficult. I hope you & your mom are doing ok.
– Side note on the concept of “inheritance”: who here didn’t realize from at least teenagerhood that it literally did not exist anymore? I remember my mom telling me that if I ever lived with someone before marriage (oh god so laughable now) that I’d be cut out of their wills. And I was all “What? I know I’m not getting any of your money. There won’t BE any.”