Comments on: It is Hard to Quantify Friendship

By: Steve Schroeder

Steve Schroeder — Wed, 23 Feb 2011 03:27:43 +0000

You track it with your feelings.
You know when its not there, so you will know when its there, right?

I think tracking this project in general is good, but not all aspects will be able to be made into a pie chart (or the pie chart will be more conceptual/subjective).

Don’t be afraid to trust your own intuitions beyond the data because that’s what you trusted to bring you to this project.

By: willow

willow — Wed, 23 Feb 2011 01:38:32 +0000

I think you nailed it Sarah. I think I’m pretty locked in to my routines- including friendship. Like, I always call this person when I need a drink after work or that person when I want to have company while watching tv. I think what I’m looking for is opportunities to go deeper with the friends I have and get out and meet some new dudes. If taking risks/making special times is the goal though the question remains- how do I track it? How do I know if I’ve achieved it?

By: willow

willow — Wed, 23 Feb 2011 01:33:39 +0000

Good calls, Meg. I think it’s really about pushing to make my social time more special- maybe going on a hike instead of to a happy hour! Or maybe picking berries instead of shopping. I dunno- still working it out.

By: willow

willow — Wed, 23 Feb 2011 01:31:30 +0000

There is truth to that I think. I love my friends so much- I don’t want to denigrate the cool hang outs we have. I do feel like something is missing though.

By: willow

willow — Wed, 23 Feb 2011 01:30:04 +0000

Thanks MB!

By: Sarah

Sarah — Tue, 22 Feb 2011 19:44:48 +0000

Maybe you could tell yourself that you’re going to be riskier with your hangouts? That would encompass things like staying out later than normal on occasion, going to things by yourself, and just generally getting outside of your friendship comfort zone. GOOOOD LUCK – I haven’t left my house after 8 pm in months!

By: michaelb

michaelb — Tue, 22 Feb 2011 07:39:17 +0000

I’m glad Perfect Heart is back. Keep it up Willow!

By: megan

megan — Tue, 22 Feb 2011 01:32:03 +0000

Maybe you need to look deeper into what it is you’re missing/craving, so you *can* put the goal into words. It might take some initial tracking/analyzing to understand it… “Feeling connected” seems quite different from “meeting new people,” which is not the same as “keeping up with everyone.”

By: Mike Merrill

Mike Merrill — Mon, 21 Feb 2011 22:59:59 +0000

I think if you start tracking the hang outs you will then have a better sense of what your goal should be. Perhaps after tracking hangouts you will feel like you don’t actually need to hang out with people more! Maybe the tracking will be enough to remind you how social you already are without thinking about it.