Comments on: talking shit will bring us together

By: melanie

melanie — Fri, 07 Mar 2008 16:19:51 +0000

one more thing i for got to say to all retarded shit talkers with no lives. WHAT GOES AROUND COMES AROUND. IF YOU THINK THIS IS GETTING YOU FAR UP THE SOCIAL LADDER THINK AGAIN BECUASE MOST LIKEY WHEN YOU TURN YOUR UGLY BACK YOUR GETTING TALKED ABOUT. ITS A VICIOUS LIFE LONG CYLCE OF SHIT TALKING SO TRY TO BE MORE RESPECTFUL OF OTHER PEOPLE WHO DONT ALWAYS APPRECIATE IT. BECAUSE POEPLE LIKE ME DESERVE THE WORLD YOU ON THE OTHER HAND DO NOT. I DONT WISH TO VISIT THIS SITE AGAIN SO DO NOT TRY AND CONTACT ME IF YOU FEEL THREATEND FOR YOUR EVIL NO GOOD GOD DAMN EVIL TALKING SHIT DEEDS. I KNOW I MADE POINT CLEAR SO HAVE ROTTEN LUCK THROUGH THE REST OF YOUR SHIT TALKING DAYS. GET OVER YOUR SELVES.

By: melanie

melanie — Fri, 07 Mar 2008 15:41:55 +0000

hey all of you insecure shit talkers. I have one thing to say get fucked. Make that more shit to say. You have nothing better going on in your lives so you have to find a perfectly innocent out cast to make your conversation go well or to bond if you will to get those sickening goose bumbs because you feel cool. OH NO WE CANT SAY ANYTHING BAD OUR SELVES! ITs sick that people bond this way. I have never really started the shit talking because i know it hurts. I have been apart of plenty of conversations with shit talking but lose intrest instantly if it goes on to long. My boss does this about me everyday i come to work. ITS NOT A POSITIVE THING EITHER IT MAKES ME UNCOMFORTABLE IN MY OWN SKIN. IT A SHAME. JUST TO LET YOU KNOW THAT I AM A BEAUTIFUL GIRL SO THAT PROBABLY HAS SOMETHING TO DO WITH IT. HEY ALL OF YOU INSECURE SHIT TALKERS GET FUCKED AND YOU BASICALLY SUCK AT LIFE BECAUSE YOU ARE MORE INTRESTED IN SOMEONE ELSES. GO KILL YOURSELF. AND IT IS HARMFUL. I HATE ALL SHIT TALKERS.

By: Liz

Liz — Fri, 12 Jan 2007 09:59:46 +0000

Fuckin’ Tom! I knew it was you.

By: TOMMO

TOMMO — Thu, 11 Jan 2007 14:58:33 +0000

“I have friendships that are based entirely on talking shit.”
That’s totally me, right? I hope so. BTDubs, I totally stole Liz and J’s bikes. Fatties need to walk.

By: willow

willow — Thu, 11 Jan 2007 14:27:31 +0000

Also, I don’t know the best response if you find yourself at the butt of jokes. I guess confronting the jokesters is the best course of action, even though it’s also the scariest. Making your feelings, your “self” known to them will make it harder for them to see you as a joke. Easier said than done, but I really think it’s the only way.
Also, for everyone’s information, Liz used to talk tons of shit about me in high school before we were friends (she thought I was a phony). I won her over though and now she is one of my dearest friends. Funny how that works, sometimes.

By: willow

willow — Thu, 11 Jan 2007 14:22:40 +0000

Yeah, even though I was a little flippant in this entry, I do draw a distinction between venting and attacking. I spent all weekend “talking shit” about the parents that are giving me a hard time at school right now, but really I was just feeling hurt and insecure and needed to work it through. When the mom came in to volunteer this week I was better able to plaster on a smile and make small talk because I’d talked through all of my hard feelings with my friends. IF I hadn’t I probably would have been defensive and distant with this mom, which would have made everything worse.

By: Jen Elliott

Jen Elliott — Thu, 11 Jan 2007 11:11:10 +0000

if you mean “talking shit” is to analyze a situation that is fine and healthy esp. with a sense of humor…but beware of spreading ridicule.
liz i think is right—when we see our own illusions too then we are bonding.
this is a very important topic and i commend willow for bravely posting it and making us chew on it. it is an emotional topic especially if someone is the butt of other’s jokes. actually, if you become the butt of other’s jokes how should you respond?

By: Liz

Liz — Thu, 11 Jan 2007 08:40:56 +0000

I think if you have an open mind and heart, shit-talking is good for the soul (ugh, I just used “heart” and “soul” in a sentence together). Like you said, you can vent about someone and then feel better towards that person later, especially if it’s not someone you really loathe. Additionally, there’s always the opportunity to rib the person about it later if you become closer friends, or take yourself to task for judging someone too soon.
I know they say that sometimes what bugs us most in other people are the qualities that we recognize in ourself. So I wonder if bonding over peeves is really connecting over similarities in a weird way.

By: Jessica

Jessica — Thu, 11 Jan 2007 06:33:50 +0000

I called my brother New Year’s Day to complain about something and afterwards told him that my resolution was going to be to stop talking shit. His reply? “I wouldn’t do that if I were you, you might end up with no friends.” When I questioned his remark he told me about that exact article. Needless to say, I quickly changed my resolution to the ever so popular eat healthy/get in shape and continued on with my shit talking.
I fully agree with the article. Like you said, when I look back at how I initially formed friendships with people at work, in class or on line to buy something it seems that they all have a common ground – trash talking. How else would I have known to call my boss “ringmaster.”

By: Gilly Bell

Gilly Bell — Thu, 11 Jan 2007 06:31:28 +0000

I don’t look at talking to your friends about something that’s bugging you (a bad driver, a co-worker that they will most likely never meet) as harming an innocent being. I think that it can make you less annoyed in the long run, and we’re better off venting in a healthy way than repressing our anger. I’m all about spreading the love, but I will never deny myself the joy of a totally healthy shit-talking session.
Willow, I’m so glad you’re writing more, I really enjoy Perfect Heart!