Comments on: NO MEANS NO

By: Randy

Randy — Mon, 13 Jun 2005 14:11:42 +0000

I understand the deplorable nature of the song, however its popularity amongst women was not mentioned, just men. Well I must say in my 30+ years of living I must say I have found more than a few women request to have their “body” beat up. As a young man raised by his mother shielded from the “Real” Black America, I had not a clue a woman would would want a man to pound her p*&^^, but that is the case in a lot of places, including all major Black Universities. So with all the condemnation the song deserves it would not be acceptable if there were not a waiting audience. Black women should check their behavior, but a man said it.

By: Lisa

Lisa — Sun, 12 Jun 2005 23:29:07 +0000

Did you all know the virtual playing of this song on the radio is AGAINST the LAW? The FCC states: It is illeagal to broadcast SEXUALLY EXPLICIT content from 6am -10pm daily… I’ve heard this song aired at 10am.
PLEASE file an FCC complaint form everytime you hear this on the radio… our silence says we’re OK with this type of SH*% when we do not go through the proper channels to complain. Don’t call the station… hit the FCC up. I have an electronic form on my site… check it out.
http://www.IndustryEars.com

By: LM

LM — Fri, 10 Jun 2005 13:20:46 +0000

“no means no if you don’t change your mind and you can convince the person you’re saying no to to accept that answer.”
haha, you’re joking about that, right? please?
that said, i do have some problems with the nature of the backlash against the song. i have less of a problem with the backlash against the article; that seems pretty merited. i prefer this response to Jessica Hopper’s, for a number of reasons, the least of which includes no misspelling of the phrase “male (sic) priviledge,” at least upon first read.

By: Donkey Kong

Donkey Kong — Thu, 09 Jun 2005 15:51:27 +0000

This is one of those bitter women/ two steps from a Lesbian sites. Why not just start chanting, “I HATE MEN”, “I HATE MEN”!

By: reacher

reacher — Tue, 07 Jun 2005 14:55:31 +0000

look people this is ridiculous.
it’s true that ‘Wait’ isn’t really a great song —- it’s sort of a lowest-common-denominator expression of the kind of aggressive dirty sex you find in a lot of southern hip hop —- and “lowest common denominator” is why it became a hit and subsequently a focal point for this debate —
but there are ALL KINDS of fantastic songs with lyrics that are much worse. sex is not safe. love is a battlefield.
the “just joking” thing doesn’t hold water cause nobody’s ever just joking —- jokes are oblique ways of getting at real things that are too intense or complex to approach directly —–
but sex is pretty complex/intense and CLEARLY encroaches upon a zone where straightforward language is inadequate —– I mean you don’t want your lover to talk like your gynecologist/urologist, right? or vice-versa.
So “beat that pussy up” is probably not as bad as it sounds —- but no doesn’t always mean no either!
that line has always reminded me of creationism in its intransigence —- somebody stamping their feet and insisting upon an absurdity because they’re terrified to contemplate a world where it’s not true —
no means no if you don’t change your mind and you can convince the person you’re saying no to to accept that answer. failing that, no means no if you can run faster, hit harder, have a gun, can find a cop that has one, etc.

By: sepi

sepi — Tue, 07 Jun 2005 12:16:29 +0000

a delight to read. now let’s get this published in the Source.

By: dave

dave — Thu, 02 Jun 2005 14:48:54 +0000

Very well said. I think that often times people don’t pay any attention to what’s being said in music nowadays.

By: Miranda Jane

Miranda Jane — Thu, 02 Jun 2005 09:35:50 +0000

Peace. Thank you for speaking straight out about this shit. I have a personal problem with this song, because hearing it brings out my violent tendencies. I’ve had a number of “club conversations” (using a stage whisper (no pun intended) to be heard over the music) here in Minneapolis, particularly with Stage One and some of the other DJs; basically it boils down to this – if a man comes up to me in a nightclub, or an alley, or an office cubicle, and says to me “wait til you see my dick,” I consider that an assault. And I answer assault with battery, which can easily escalate to manslaughter.
Opening up a dialogue about this is the only way to get back the momentum that this song seeks to slow down. The last time I went to the club, Stage told me that when he was digging for the evening HE LEFT THE RECORD AT HOME because of what I’d said to him about the lyrics/whispers. TAKE THAT, TVT.
Thank you for demoting this record, and those of its ilk, and for promoting the feminist Hip Hop movement.

By: TM

TM — Wed, 01 Jun 2005 21:48:22 +0000

Musically speaking, that song sucks.
-T

By: amy linden

amy linden — Wed, 01 Jun 2005 18:28:19 +0000

that song is , was and will always be flat out disgusting, insulting a nd creepy- and i dont care how many dying to be down faux hip hop heads and male crits justify it.i am so fucking tired of having to grin and bear this crap- censor it? naww , not that but do we have to glorify this never ending bashing? note to yin or is that yang- aint nothing sexy about implying violence when youre trying to get laid.