Comments on: long distance alienation and needing space http://urbanhonking.com/advice/2013/01/15/long-distance-alienation-and-needing-space/ Tue, 21 Jul 2015 18:52:04 +0000 hourly 1 By: dv http://urbanhonking.com/advice/2013/01/15/long-distance-alienation-and-needing-space/#comment-845 Sat, 19 Jan 2013 00:25:09 +0000 http://urbanhonking.com/advice/?p=206#comment-845 Oh man, I feel you on the phone thing so much. It’s my LEAST favorite method of communication. Exactly because, as you say, you have to be constantly verbalizing. I’m always taking time to think things over in my head and then respond, and that turns into the awkward silences, which always feel like “Ok, so is this phone conversation over? Because it’s been silent for 3 seconds.”

If I, Robot’s girlfriend has a “deep meditation practice,” maybe she needs to meet with someone in her area about how that practice should be informing her daily outlook? Meditation is all about learning to just exist in the moment and appreciate pure being, which personally has helped me to worry less about things in the past or future. Ideally, it would help her feel like she does not need to worry about whether her long distance relationship will work out, or whether she will get a tenure track position, because these things are all revealed to be illusions produced by the restless mind #DEEPHIPPIE

Whether this is true or not, keeping this perspective is useful in order to not freak out about having a bad Skype convo. I feel like this probably sounds snobby, but I’m just saying that I have chilled myself out a lot over the years by thinking of things on both a real and a metaphysical level.

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